Is it too much to want to talk to my boyfriend everyday??
Or
Is should I settle on a few times a week and be happy?
Hopefully you agree that a simple text or call every day would be appropriate. UNFORTUNATELY that isn't how my current boyfriend views communication. He feels that every day is overrated, and we shouldn't talk EVERYDAY.
Do you agree?
Is it too much to expect to talk to someone I care about everyday, or am I being needy, with my wanting to talk every day? I feel like he should be excited to call me everyday, even if it is just to say how was your day? How are you? To me that says he is interested! Am I a hopeless romantic, or is chivalry truly dead.
Help me out ladies! (and gents)
I'll keep this short. I could write for days on this topic as it is very applicable to my life.
ReplyDeleteIf you get to see each other every day then I can see it as being too much. If you call or text every day and say the same things it can get awfully monotonous fast. In that sense it almost becomes a chore to call. If, however, you only get to see each other a couple times a week then I don't think you're asking too much (with a courtesy text). I do think it'll get monotonous but probably not as fast.
In my experience, if you call someone daily you have the potential to come across needy. Which, women I've dated, don't seem too crazy about.
There's an old saying that says "You want what you can't have." If you get what you want, what's to say you won't move on and want something/someone else? Maybe he's trying to avoid that potential outcome or looking "clingy". My advice? Try not to get hung up on the little things too much. If it really bothers you tell him about it.
I don't think that is too much to ask. When you are with someone communication shouldn't be a burden, especially if they matter to you.
ReplyDeleteOne of my best friend's was being asked why he would want to spend a week long vacation with his wife by his co-workers. He was astonished and told them why would he be with someone he didn't want to spend time with. I know he is married and that is a different situation, but even in dating relationships their should be more of a connection then just physical attraction.
I don't think texting or phone calls are too needy, and I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that would really appreciate someone who wants a two way relationship.
Chivalry isn't dead, but it's probably on life support.
I don't think chivalry is dead, but I think that some people just don't like to talk on the phone. that might be his thing. But I don't think it is unreasonable for you to want him to call you everyday when you care about someone you want to hear from them.
ReplyDeleteif you guys have a lot in common you will want to hang out 25/8 but if the relationship is ok then who ever thinks that the relationship is ok that person will shy away from everyday contact...me i love to met ppl that are like me, i love affection so if we can see each other everyday i am game, just as long as we have conversation and not just sitting around staring at each other...if you are my woman you are my friend...PERIOD...me i like to have a friend in my relationship...
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